No Orgy After All

What really happens at a swingers club might surprise you

Do We Have To Play?

A lot of people ask about this, and even though the answer is always "do only what you're comfortable with" and "there's never any pressure to play",   people still wonder if they'll be the only hold-outs in a crowd of people having a major orgy.  They are understandably nervous about making that first visit to a swing club.

Let me remind folks, TSC is a great on-site swingers club, but it's middle name is SOCIAL.

 I go there.  I am a swinger.  My hubby is a swinger.
That doesn't mean we have only swinging interactions.

I go there to be social with swingers.  If I'm in Nashville, and want to go out for a drink, why go sit with strangers in a regular bar when I can go where people understand my mind-set, can get the same jokes, and I don't have to excuse myself for being out without my husband?  TSC is the one safe place I can go with my friends and hang out.  I can play there if I want, that's a great option. But not all of the members do play onsite. A lot of us take our play someplace else, and use the club for a place to meet and be in an adult atmosphere.  Some are still just exploring the possibility of playing.  They're not there yet, but fascinated by the prospect.   That's cool too,  most of us have been in that place.

I go on Wed or Thurs a lot, sit and visit, and usually have no intention of playing. I only go for spontaneous play about 2-3 times a year.  My preferred kink would be to set up a planned fantasy with one of the regulars, and show up after simmering on that for a week. Weds and Thurs are ideal nights for that kind of play. Sex isn't the only good outcome of a visit to an adult club. 

Your choices are so varied...  If you want to play as the mood strikes, do it!  If you want to meet and flirt there, then "take it to a room" with a jacuzzi, do that.  Plenty of us do.  If you just want to talk to others who have flexible relationships, we do that too.  "Social" isn't really code word for "sexual", it really does mean the freedom to do whatever is right for your situation at the moment.

Sex isn't the only good outcome of a visit to the club.  Play a game of pool, talk about hunting, fishing, football, opera. Dress up, dress kinky, dress trampy, flirt, touch, dance, tease, do all the stuff you cannot do at a regular bar.  And if you do want to get jiggy, you'll know there is no coy "I'm a good girl" bullshit holding you back. 

For club time, you can be a schoolgirl, pole dancer, vixen, dungeon slave or interested observer.   On Monday, you can go right back to being a nurse, teacher, cashier or whatever the outside world normally sees in you. 

Now that is - as the TSC motto says -  "Living Life to the Fullest".  woot.

(Disclosure:  I'm not an owner, or affiliate of TSC. We're just members that like to share what we have learned about swinging in Nashville)