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Dating for the kinky

This is the place to explore or expand your enjoyment of adult lifestyles! We have online and offline services for meeting others, and learning more about every facet of alternative lifestyles, sexuality, and leisure.

Kinky and Decent?

Have you ever really looked at your adult kink sites? I mean REALLY looked?

If you've ever felt dirty or embarrassed about the kink sites you've visited, GrownUps is for you. Black and red is nice, and can be hot, but I don't need the flashing pumping-jizz porn ads onscreen when I'm updating my profile or browsing for info, do you?

Sleazy has its place for sure! Same with "dirty" and "raw" - I like those too - sometimes. (I'm a longtime member of both AdultFriendFinder and ALT.) Sometimes, exploring this stuff should feel daring and adveturous. But sometimes, I look at their graphics and think, What am I doing here? This isn't who I am all the time!

I don't want that to be the main feeling here. I'm not sleazy 24/7, and I want a site that lets me be my whole self. That's why I built GrownUps.

Membership Pricing - Simple!

Every account has all access to all features. None of this upgrade to see this or upgrade to do that. You're either in, or you're not.

• Join Free During Beta - beta testers are free for life
• June 1, 2010 - Beta Closed



• After June 1, GrownUps Member - $15.95 month

No Ads ever

With club discounts and an affiliate program, it pays to be a GrownUp.

New to swinging or BDSM? Just curious?
We have articles and workshops that will tell you what you really want to know. I actually discuss the taboos ~

Swinger topics

• How do I bring this up to my partner?
• Where would we meet a lady that wants to join a couple?
• If I agree to try swinging, will it destroy my relationship?
• I want to play with two women, but what if I pop-off too soon?
• What do I wear to an Adult Club? I'm not Barbie (or Ken)
• Can women attend a swingers club alone? Swingers Club Tips for Single Ladies
• Do we have to play? What really happens at a swing club

BDSM topics

• How do I bring this up to my partner?
• We just bought a flogger. What now?
• I'm monogomous! Does every Dominant live to build a harem?
• Ever since I started exploring this stuff, it's like I'm in a frenzy, help!
• What do I wear to an Adult Club? I'm not Barbie (or Ken)
• What's the deal with this masochism? Is it normal? Hitting for fun? C'mon now

We have those answers, because we've all had the same questions. As founders of GrownUps, have met and socialised with umpteen new and curious swingers and BDSMers over the years. We've developed a very smooth and simple way to make people comfortable about coming to socials, making friends, and meeting potential partners. We also know where the land mines are, because we've hit a few of them ourselves!

We've seen GrownUps members connect with play partners for casual times, and have attended the wedding of one couple of friends that met at a GrownUps Dinner. Along the way, we've made a lot of friends, danced a lot, revelled in frivolity, and made some very deep and lasting connections. You can too!

Not so new to it all? If you're looking for new places to go and people to see, GrownUps is for You. You'll know the value of discounted prices for Adult clubs and savings on toys and tools. For those ready to give back, we have plenty of opportunities for you to share your knowledge and skills!

Warm Waves
~Ladybugn

P.S.
Remember, we're in beta test. We're updating the old software and starting over. If you have trouble logging in, registering, or finding your way around, please use the LIVE SUPPORT link below. One of us is on hand to guide you! Just click the button and a support IM will open. You don't need to be registered to use it.